Monday, April 02, 2018

A Beautiful Death

It has been six weeks since my mother went to heaven. I had hoped to post before this, but with Mom's death following my sister's passing so soon after, the wind went out of my sails and I haven't had the heart to write. 

But today I am better. Today I am writing. Today I feel more like me.

I miss Mom so much and long for just one more kiss to her petal-soft cheek. I always kissed her good-bye when it was time to end our visits. And she'd give me one of her sweet, sweet smiles and tell me she loved me.

Mom was 93 and like most of the elderly found life to be challenging. She depended on the help of others and her world, which had once been big and wide, became small. Still, she rarely complained and was a living example of what it means to have a thankful heart.

Six days before she died, we were told that she was in an "active" phase of dying. She was no longer eating or drinking and slept most of the time. Occasionally, she would open her eyes and look at those near her and she would smile sweetly. My brother and I sat with her for many hours, holding her hand, caressing her arms or feet, dropping kisses on her cheek. Family came to sit and to say farewell, to be near her just a little longer. Friends and caregivers (past and present) visited as well. They came with sweet remembrances and hugs and kisses for mom and family. One caregiver came each day to love on Mom and to play a special song they both treasured. 

So many loved her.

Mom wasn't rich or famous or especially exceptional ... except in the way that matters most. She had a kind heart and she appreciated the people who had been part of her life. Through the years people were drawn to her. She was someone who listened to hopes and dreams, heart aches and disappointment and precious joys. Mom did not judge when a person dared to be transparent and share a truth no one else could know.  

Mom was grateful for the kindness and care shown to her by others and made sure to say "thank you." 

In her final years life was not easy for Mom but, she still found much to be grateful for, even the sometimes long and quiet days. 

Mom was a gift to me. I miss her, but I've been blessed to know her and to have watched her example of gracious living. One day we will be together again - Mom, my sisters, my father, me and many others I love. We will share eternity.

Thank you, Father, for my precious mother.

This is one of my favorite photos of Mom. 
It was taken on her honeymoon after she married my father.

Elsa Trover Campbell Roberts
1/9/25 - 2/13/2018

  Elsa was born in Spenard, Alaska to Thomas and Vera Roberts. She was raised in a unique frontier and subsistence lifestyle on a remote homestead at a place called Alexander Creek, a tributary of the Little Susitna River. She was one of eight children (six boys and 2 girls). She grew up on the "creek" and later attended school in Anchorage Alaska during the school year.

For a remote country girl of just 18 she showed unusual courage for her time when she left home in 1943, booking transport on a ship bound for Seattle. There she became reacquainted with a young Navy man by the name of Roy Campbell and later married him in Yakima, Washington in September of 1946.

Elsa and Roy spent 30 happy years in Yakima, then Renton, then Kent Washington raising a family of five children (Bruce, Craig, Bonnie, Myrn and Leslie). Sadly, after a 5 yea battle Roy died of cancer in 1975.

Elsa was remarried in 1977 to Orviille Trover and found a brand new family and fulfilling lifestyle as they worked together in the antique business. She loved that business and its weekly treasure hunts at garage/yardd/estate sales and the like. Besides Trigger and her children it was her greatest joy. Elsa and trigger remained together until his death in 2012.

Later that year Elsa moved to Roseburg, Oregon where she could be near daughter Bonnie and her husband Greg. With failing health in subsequent years Elsa died peacefully at the Ashley Manor Nursing Home February 13, 2018.

Elsa touched many lives over her lifetime and was known to be kind and caring to all while remaining strong and resilient to adversity. Godd had enriched her with family and friends who loved her and she in turn enriched others with her contagious smile and positivity.

Elsa is survived by brother Harold, daughter Bonnie, son-n-law Marshal, sons Craig and Bruce, 12 grandchildren and 17 great grandchildren.

We'll be seeing you.


  1. Awwww, such a lovely tribute to a lovely woman! I know your heart misses her so dearly, but isn't it absolutely wonderful to think of your very own mama with Jesus---totally, completely perfect and seeing THE FACE OF GOD? Yowsa, when I think of that... <3

  2. I sure loved her. She lived a very long life. I wish I could give her kisses and tell her I love her just one more time. She has a special place in my heart and always will. Until we meet again sweet heart. Love ya Bonnie I am so thankful I got to meet the family. Thank you for letting me be part of your moms life hun.

  3. Marshall Trover7:58 PM

    Thank you for those words. It brings back lots of beautiful memories of the most kind hearted person I ever knew.

  4. Thanks for your gift of words, Bonnie. Your mom was so special and attending her Celebration of Life was such a special time for me. Your family’s loss of Elsa and Myrn will be felt by many for a long time. May you and yours feel my loving prayers for healing and peace.

  5. Such a beautiful celebration of a beautiful life. Thank you for sharing her with us. Saying a prayer for you.

  6. This is a beautiful tribute to your mother.

  7. Lovely person. Lovely words. A life well lived and that smile lives on. . . 💝

  8. Lisa schrader4:06 PM

    That was a very beautiful tribute to your mom bonnie. I feel very blessed that i and ny family was able to hear her stories and share a piece of her life. She was a blessung to all who crossed her path.She had a warm heart and a contaguius smile. We also enjoyed her family from near and far. Jesus is the lucky one.

  9. Anonymous8:19 AM

    She was one of the most amazing women I have ever met. Her kindness was overwhelming. Her joy was seen through everyone.

  10. Bonnie, what a lovely piece in honor of your mother. I hear your heart missing her deeply; however, isn't it wonderful that we Christians know there is something better than this world? I don't know how non-Christians deal with death of our loved ones. I love you, Barbara