Friday, August 14, 2015

Forty-Four Years & Still Together

Forty-four years ago today, I pledged to share my life with Gregory Leon. Celebrating still.

I met my handsome hunk of a man when I was just seventeen. He was nineteen and in the Navy. He looked so good in his uniform.

Truly hunky, right?

I was on my way out to a party, when my brother walked into  our house with a guy who had the most amazing green eyes and broad shoulders. I decided there was no reason to hurry out the door.

Our exchange that night was brief, but I was hooked. I never dated another man. And two years after our first meeting we were married. 

And after that day it was utter bliss and has been ever since - NOT!

This isn't a romance novel. We had a rough beginning, full of anguish and heartbreak. After four years together, we separated for seven months, and my husband filed for divorce. 

But that wasn't the end of our story.

God had other plans for us. As he worked in each of our hearts we realized how much we loved one another and came to understand that we belonged together. We each had a life-changing encounter with The Great I Am and offered our lives to Jesus Christ. And then, we began again, brand new in the Lord.

So, is there a magic formula for staying together? Is there a way to guarantee that you'll enjoy a long and happy marriage? No. I wish there was a formula. And if you find one please make sure to tell the world, which is in desperate need.

This is what I do know:

  • When Greg and I became children of the Living God, we were made new and the anchor of our marriage became Christ. He is where we begin and where we end.
  • The "D" word, divorce, is not in our vocabulary. We committed to the long haul, no matter what.
  • Sacrifice is part of our life. We each give to the other (even when we don't want to)
  • Forgiveness - There is nothing that we can't forgive. God forgave us everything.
  • We give our partner wings to fly. And cheer each other on. And when one of us doesn't fly well we help pick him/her up and encourage them to fly again.
  • There is no score board in our home. We try not to keep score of the faults in one another, but do make note of each other's good qualities ... often. And we tell one another that we know these wonderful things about the other.
  • Saying thank you is more than just being polite. We say it often. 

There are a lot of other things I could add, but this short list is what comes to my mind first. Greg and I are imperfect and we're not always nice to each other. But the core of who we are is strong and no matter how ornery we get, we always come back to the core of us which is secured in love.

I am thankful for our life together. There are so many wonderful things I'd like to tell you about my husband, only there isn't room here. I will say this, I am thankful that God brought him into my life. And I am certain we will not be parted by anything other than death.

Grace and peace to you from God,



  1. Happy Anniversary. Well said. Good marriages are not fairy tales, they are hard work but full of love. Worth every moment of both sides of the vows: In sickness and in health... We are approaching 30 years coming up in March 2016. My hunk and I also took the possibility of Divorce out of our options when we got married. We were committed in the good, the ugly, and the funny. Christ gives us the strength and resource to love one another unconditionally. So easy to quit when it gets hard but worth the wait to grown closer together through the experience. Thanks for sharing :)

  2. Thank you, Mary and congratulations on your upcoming celebration of thirty years.

    I love how your list includes the funny. That's perfect.

    May you and your husband enjoy many more years together.

    God bless.

  3. Happy Anniversary! What a nice post today.. I really enjoyed your story & the pictures :)

  4. Happy Anniversary! I'm so glad you both found the Lord. That was indeed a wise decision and has helped you both to be a good "forgiver" and "forgetter". May you have many more years together! We will be celebrating 48 years this October. The years have flown by, can hardly believe it.