Showing posts with label Memories. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Memories. Show all posts

Friday, May 24, 2013

The Journey -- Mom's Garden


Summer is approaching so I thought it would be fun to talk about flower gardens. I've never been great at growing flowers. But my  mother was. 

We had flowers everywhere--rhododendrons, roses, snap-dragons, daffodils, tulips, carnations, dahlias and lots more. Mom loved flowers and still does.

My brothers did most of the work in the vegetable gardens while my sisters and I helped keep the flower beds tidy and clean. I hated the work, especially weeding. In those early years I didn't appreciate the beauty of the flowers.

Mom had an especially gorgeous dahlia garden. I don't remember working in it. I think it was so special that my mother was the only one who watched over it. The dahlias grew along the front of our property, near the highway. Many a traveler stopped to admire the garden and sometimes they'd chat with Mom. Often, before they went on their way, she'd cut them a bouquet. I'm certain she found special joy in sharing her glorious flowers with others.

It took becoming an adult for me to fully appreciate the gift of flowers. They are clearly designed by the Master Crafter. 

Even though I now see their true beauty I'm not very adept at growing them. Each year, when I plant I wish them well and apologize for being the one who will watch over and raise them. With me for a gardener their chances of reaching their highest potential as flowers, isn't great. 

I especially love roses, but so do the deer. When blooms first appear the night raiders arrive and can decimate an entire rose garden in one night. Because of the deer I now grow a few roses in pots on my deck, safely locked behind a gate. 




Yellow roses are my favorite. I wonder if it has anything to do with the fact that my father loved them too. He's gone now, and yellow roses remind me of him.




This is a photo of one from last season, covered in dew. I thought it was especially exquisite.

When I was young and working in my mother and father's flower gardens I complained a lot. It wasn't all bad, though. I remember sunshine and long chats while we toiled away. And I especially loved the fragrance of the roses and carnations. Sometimes we'd pluck succulent flowers and drink their sweet nectar.

Today, I have a few flowerbeds, but they're made up mostly of non-flowering plants. I have my garden on my deck in the summer where it's close at hand and I can tend it without help form my husband. I love sitting on my deck with flowers all around.





I especially love the wild flowers that grow in the fields surrounding my home. They don't depend on me to care for them, only the Creator.







My parents love of beauty meant everyone had to work. I'm grateful. Work is good for kids and adults. I learned to stick to a job until it was completed. To keep on working even if I was tired. And to appreciate the fruit of my labors. 


And I'm so grateful for the memories.



Friday, March 22, 2013

Thoughts For Today -- A Mom Season



















Life is made up of seasons. Some come upon us unexpectedly.

Last year, I was thrown into a season I had't counted on and was unprepared for -- A Mom Season.

I thought my life was busy, but that was before my eighty-seven-year-old mother became  ill and during that illness she was widowed. She moved to an assisted living center in a town close to my home. I have no siblings who live nearby so it's a me and Mom season.

There are doctor visits, ER visits, surgeries, bills to pay, hands-on care, shopping to do and a whole other list of to-do's for my mother that are part of my life now. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed. I can't find time for my job or my family or me. And there are days that, after leaving Mom, I cry all the way home because it hurts to watch her struggle through this difficult season in her life. And I know that one day I will drive home and it will be the last time. That makes me cry too. 

And so, I am reminded that this is only for a season. It is a time I will never be able to retrieve, which makes it precious.




This is a me and Mom Season. It's a time to love each other. A time to share memories. A time to make new ones. It's a time for story-telling, and a time to get to know one another better, and to gather with family to celebrate birthdays, holidays and other special occasions. 





Mom and I have quiet conversations, lunches at the duck pond and drives along the river. We share favorite movies and talk about books and family. 

This is a blessed season.

I am grateful for these days. Without them, I would never have known my mother the way I do now.

She's lived here for a little more than a year. We recently celebrated her 88th birthday. I'm chronically trying to catch up on my email, find time to finish my next blog or work on my latest book project. I worry more and sometimes I don't sleep, but I am thankful. These days may be difficult, but they are sweet. I've been given the gift of knowing the depth of my mother's love. And I've discovered her courageous heart.

I've always loved my mother, but I didn't understand how grand a lady she truly is. Now I do.

Grace and peace to you from God,






Bonnie

Sunday, May 04, 2008

Quiet Moments With God--Memories

Yesterday I spoke at a women’s luncheon; the topic was Making Memories to Cherish. The luncheon was great fun. We played games, enjoyed good food and beautiful music. Best of all, I met a lot of special ladies who made me feel welcomed. And I now have a batch of new memories tucked away in my mind.

Memories are like gifts, and the best kind of memories are those created by acts of love and mercy. I have many wonderful memories of my growing up years with my large family, funny and even bizarre moments with my kids, and special times with friends.

Through the years, God has brought warm and loving people into my life. The women at the luncheon were those kind of people. They made a special effort to encourage me and to make me feel like one of them.

The kind of event I attended yesterday doesn’t happen by accident. It takes committed people who willingly give of themselves. Women put hours into planning. Some carefully chose music and then perfected it for us to enjoy. There were lovely table settings prepared for guests, food prepared and special vignettes written and then shared. The end result was a memorable day and a warm place in my heart where I will remember it all.

In love and mercy, these women took time to give to others. Special memories last and they help carry us through the good and the bad days of life. May we savor every precious moment given to us.

Touch someone else’s life today—let them know you love them.

Grace and peace to you from God.

Bonnie

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