Sunday, August 12, 2012

Relationshps -- Don't Wait For A Funeral

Today, I've been thinking a lot about
relationships . . . actually I've been thinking on this for several days. I'm out of touch with my friends.

And I miss them.

I don't know when it happened, but I know it was a gradual process that was speeded up by the additional injury to my back two years ago. I spent most days at home, and I had to step out of church ministry, which created more distance. When I was young, my girl friends and I used to hang out a lot--we'd go shopping, to movies, work out, go to the park. We liked to be together.

Bit by bit, the shopping fell away . . . then the movies . . . coffee out . . . . until it became just Sunday morning hello's and Bible Study.

I'm in a new church now and I'm just beginning to meet people. I don't see my "old" friends at all. I stay in touch with family and old, old friends, my writing buddies and readers, but I can't remember the last time I got together face to face with anyone outside of family.Most of my contacts are on Facebook. That's sad. I'm sad.

I miss my friends.

When I die (I know that sounds morose, but let's face it none of us gets out of here alive) my friends will show up at my funeral. They'll  have nice things to say about me. And those who don't will be silent. When I lose people I love I'll go to their services to say farewell and I'll wish I'd spent time with them while I could.

I don't want to wait until my friends are gone, and I don't want them to wait for my exit either. It's time to do something about the distance between me and the people I care about. I'm going on a campaign to make time. I'm going to rediscover my social side. It will be a challenge . . . I'm out of practice and my back is non-cooperative. But I'm determined.

How about you? We may not have more tomorrows. Make time today, even if it's just a phone call or a card. Stay in touch. Love on someone and have some fun.

Grace and peace to you from God,



  1. Anonymous10:00 PM

    I'm sorry Bonnie. I know the feeling. As I would move from one place it seemed like I was forgotten and it hurts. Sometimes, I would think, was this a one-sided friendship? Some wrote for a while then just seemed to quit. I wrote to many, but it seemed none was eager to keep in touch with letters, so finally mine slowed down. I now am in touch with a few. But it does hurt to find someone doesn't care as much as we do. Hope things work out for you. God Bless you. Maxie

  2. Maxie, thank you for sharing. You know the pain and I'm sorry for that, but I think that oftentimes without loss we don't know how precious something is.

    I know there are a lot of "us" who have lost touch with people we viewed as friends. Most of my very closest friends live far away, but I have a few who are close by and I'm going to reconnect. :-) And I know God has new friends for me. And I spent today with my youngest daughter, shopping. It was so much fun! I'm so thankful for the friendships I have with my daughters.

    Grace and peace to you.

  3. I miss you too Bonnie. I have been having trouble with my eyes due to allergies and have not been able to read as much, but thanks to God and the Doctor, I am much better! Ready to read again and would love to read your books that I have missed reading. Loooking forward to reading from an amazing writer and a friend.
    Lets keep in touch!

  4. Rebecca, so glad to hear from you. And happy to know your vision is better. I hope you get to do a lot of reading.

    And your friendship is valuable. Your words of wisdom and encouragement brighten my days.

    Grace and peace to you.